Mother's Day is this Sunday. I try to tell all the mothers I know Happy Mother's Day. Even if it's ones that I only talk to a few times a year. It doesn't take a lot of time to do, and I hope they enjoy it. I think you should get gifts, or at least flowers, for the mothers in your life. Well, not all, but the ones closest to you, like your mother, grandmother, and if you have any, the mother of your kids. I think you need to honor these amazing women in your life. I feel the same way for Father's Day, too. And it doesn't even have to be flowers. Sometimes it is the small things that make people feel the best. Taking your mom out to lunch, or surprising her with a cake and card, or just giving her a call. Last year I surprised my mom with some flowers and a cake. For your wife, maybe picking up around the house, or making her dinner, or just having some alone time together. It really doesn't take a whole lot to show someone you truly appreciate what they do.
My Grandma passed away 2 1/2 years ago. It was 4 weeks before my wedding, which sucked, but you have to deal with it. It was a weird time and I didn't visit her much in her last few months. I had my reasons though. I wanted to remember my Grandma as the person she was, not the person in the hospital bed with the tube in her throat. I only visited her a handful of times in the last year of her life. I could have visited more, but her memory was getting worse every day. Mother's Day of 2008 I visited her and took her a card, and she didn't even remember it was me that brought it to her. So, I think you can see why I didn't visit much. It was heartbreaking seeing her that way. I loved that woman more than any person ever. More than my mom, more than Lindsay, more than anyone. She did so much for Lindsay and I. She was a truly wonderful person, and it saddens me to think that my children will never get a chance to meet her. This may sound cocky or whatever, but I always like to think that I was her favorite. Maybe because I was the baby of the grandchildren. I know most grandparents and parents don't have favorites, but I just like to think I was hers. I'm sure my sister and cousins think the same thing.
Mother's Day is a day to show these women that you really appreciate what they do the other 364 days of the year, or to show that even though you are an adult, you always need you mommy. :-) I myself am a mommas boy, and I don't mind admitting that. My mom raised me the best she could and always made sure I had everything I needed. She sacrificed stuff for her just so I could have what I wanted. For the most part, she was a single mother. She didn't have a job the entire time, but she always made sure there was food on the table, clothes on my back and a roof over my head. I am truly grateful for this. I'll be honest, I was a shitty kid. I didn't listen very well and was ungrateful at times. I talked back and stayed out past my curfew. But now that I look back on it, my mom was just doing what was best for me. I didn't need to be out all hours of the night doing god only knows what. I needed to accept that it's not about what you get, it's the thought that counts. I'm thankful for the mom I have. She made sure I grew up to be a decent human being, which I think I did.
And on that note, I've gotta run.
Happy Mother's Day to all you wonderful mothers out there.
Love Ya.
Thursday, May 5, 2011
Tuesday, May 3, 2011
people...
People are stupid. There is a reason I isolate myself most of the time. I can't deal with other people and their nonsense. It seems like lately the only people I enjoy spending time with, other then Lindsay, are my Heroclix friends. Every body else kind of annoys me. But, I'm sure I annoy people too.
I hate when you're "friends" with people and they invite mutual friends over and don't invite you. It makes you not want to hang out with those people at all. If you don't want to hang out with me, that's cool. I understand. I would rather sit in my room on the computer than hang out with people that don't give a fuck about me. There are a lot of things I can look at on the computer that are way more fun than hanging out with "friends." The same goes for people that say they are gonna hang out but then when the time comes, they have some shitty excuse. Again, if you don't want to hang out, say so, don't make up some dumb excuse.
Over the last few years I've made new friends and lost touch with others. Some I miss, others I don't. Some of the new friends I enjoy hanging out with, some are annoying. I have seen the good in friends and I've seen the bad. I have a few groups of friends and I like it that way. I have my Heroclix friends, who I hang out with on Saturdays. I enjoy this time. It's the one time of the week that I normally have fun and don't have to worry about shit. I can just relax and BS with these friends and nothing really matters. There is no stress, no bills, no worries at the time. These are the times I enjoy. Sitting around and having time to think is something I don't like doing much. It gets me thinking of the shitty situation we are in and how we got here. But, you live and learn, right?
Another group of friends would be my family really. I enjoy spending time with Lindsay. She is the one person that I don't get tired of. Sure, we fight, but at the end of the day, she's the one I'm laying next to. Other people get annoying, real fast. That is one of the things I loved about living by ourselves. Just being able to sit in a quiet apartment and not have to hear people arguing and bitching. But sometimes you gotta sacrifice some things for others. We sacrificed our privacy for cheaper rent so we could pay off our bills faster. When it is all said and done, being debt free and being able to save for a house are way more important than our privacy right now.
Then there are Lindsay's friends which by default are my friends. And honestly, I kind of like them more than other friends. They were are friends before we moved, and they are still our friends. They almost seem like more family then friends. I like some of them more than I like some of my actual family members. These are people that I have met through Lindsay and most are Hair Stylists. Of all my friends, they are some of the ones I've known the longest, at least while living in Western Washington. They may be annoying at times, but they are a lot better friends than some other friends we have. Sure, we don't see them as much as we use to, but that's okay. Sometimes you need breaks from your friends.
I believe that a friend is someone who accepts you for who you are. They don't care how much money you have or if you are gay or straight. They get your jokes and laugh at you even when you're not funny. They come hang out with you on your birthday, even when they have to be up early for work the next day. That to me is what a true friend is. Not someone who ditches you, or prefers to hang out with their other friend over you. I personally have a love for all my friends, even if I only see them once a week, or they live in another state, or even country. But, that's the great thing about Facebook is it allows you to keep in touch with these friends.
As you may notice, I started off on more of an angry note, but ended on a happier one. Weird how just writing stuff down can do that. :-)
Well, that's it.....Love you all....
I hate when you're "friends" with people and they invite mutual friends over and don't invite you. It makes you not want to hang out with those people at all. If you don't want to hang out with me, that's cool. I understand. I would rather sit in my room on the computer than hang out with people that don't give a fuck about me. There are a lot of things I can look at on the computer that are way more fun than hanging out with "friends." The same goes for people that say they are gonna hang out but then when the time comes, they have some shitty excuse. Again, if you don't want to hang out, say so, don't make up some dumb excuse.
Over the last few years I've made new friends and lost touch with others. Some I miss, others I don't. Some of the new friends I enjoy hanging out with, some are annoying. I have seen the good in friends and I've seen the bad. I have a few groups of friends and I like it that way. I have my Heroclix friends, who I hang out with on Saturdays. I enjoy this time. It's the one time of the week that I normally have fun and don't have to worry about shit. I can just relax and BS with these friends and nothing really matters. There is no stress, no bills, no worries at the time. These are the times I enjoy. Sitting around and having time to think is something I don't like doing much. It gets me thinking of the shitty situation we are in and how we got here. But, you live and learn, right?
Another group of friends would be my family really. I enjoy spending time with Lindsay. She is the one person that I don't get tired of. Sure, we fight, but at the end of the day, she's the one I'm laying next to. Other people get annoying, real fast. That is one of the things I loved about living by ourselves. Just being able to sit in a quiet apartment and not have to hear people arguing and bitching. But sometimes you gotta sacrifice some things for others. We sacrificed our privacy for cheaper rent so we could pay off our bills faster. When it is all said and done, being debt free and being able to save for a house are way more important than our privacy right now.
Then there are Lindsay's friends which by default are my friends. And honestly, I kind of like them more than other friends. They were are friends before we moved, and they are still our friends. They almost seem like more family then friends. I like some of them more than I like some of my actual family members. These are people that I have met through Lindsay and most are Hair Stylists. Of all my friends, they are some of the ones I've known the longest, at least while living in Western Washington. They may be annoying at times, but they are a lot better friends than some other friends we have. Sure, we don't see them as much as we use to, but that's okay. Sometimes you need breaks from your friends.
I believe that a friend is someone who accepts you for who you are. They don't care how much money you have or if you are gay or straight. They get your jokes and laugh at you even when you're not funny. They come hang out with you on your birthday, even when they have to be up early for work the next day. That to me is what a true friend is. Not someone who ditches you, or prefers to hang out with their other friend over you. I personally have a love for all my friends, even if I only see them once a week, or they live in another state, or even country. But, that's the great thing about Facebook is it allows you to keep in touch with these friends.
As you may notice, I started off on more of an angry note, but ended on a happier one. Weird how just writing stuff down can do that. :-)
Well, that's it.....Love you all....
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